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"Why does it hurt so much? Because it was real"

In the first movie i saw after Mola left, i heard this dialogue. 

In an unlikely movie - The 3rd installment of the Hobbit.

I will always, always remember this quote. It allows me to deal with my pain. It gives me the belief that what Mola and I shared for 10 years was real. The love, the longing and desire to be with each other no, matter what.

It should hurt this much. It has to. It was real. 

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Anonymous said…
At the beginning of the movie Ship of Theseus, the filmmaker asks the fundamental question in the parable - if, over time, every single part of the boat is replaced so that at some point it no longer contains any of its original parts, is it still the same boat? If it is true that every single cell in our body dies and is replaced by a new one, are we the same person tomorrow as we are today? The answer would be no, if we think of our being, our very existence, as bounded by what bodily constitutes us - the physicality of each strand of hair, of each pore on our skin, of each eyeball in our skull. But are these parts what make us? Do they make us who we are? The parable rather suggests that who we are would be the sensation of having hands stroke the strands of hair, the feeling of having another person touch our skin and the memories of what our eyes have seen. Our memories, our thoughts and feelings are what make us real. When we die, then, when our body perishes, do we cease to exist? If it is our memories, our thoughts and feelings which makes us, then will we ever really cease to be real? Are we not present in others whom we spoke with, whom we saw and touched, whom we loved? Do they not carry us in them, long after our bodies have gone? Do they not make us, as we make them?

Mola may be gone, but she is real, just as the decade you lived together was real and all of that is inside you. You are the repository of the life she lived. You and those with whom she broke fast, those with whom she quarreled, those in whom she sought solace. It's ok to hurt because her being is no longer the same. And it is now literally impossible to hold her hand or touch her cheek. It hurts this much because it hurts inside - where she is.

At the end of the movie, the anonymous donor's recipients meet in a church to celebrate his life. We never see his actual face, just his shadow as he enters the cave. He may be gone but his organs live on within each of them, and we saw some of their stories unfold in the movie. He is no longer present, contained in the physicality of his body. But he is real in others whose lives he not only touched, but to whom his death literally gave a new life.
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